I used to be guilty of this in the early years of our marriage. Whenever my husband did anything annoying, like leaving a mess for me to clean up, I would remind him how Prophet Muhammad (sw) was said to mend his own shoes and did his chores. My husband would in turn remind me […]
A lot of us women don’t see ourselves as nags. Yes, you complain a couple of times when things you don’t like happen, but you wouldn’t define yourself as someone who nags. But what I’ve seen is that on a daily basis, there is the tendency to nag your husband about several issues, without realizing […]
I used to think that marriage was about finding someone who always makes me happy. Of course in my subconscious I knew that happiness isn’t guaranteed every minute of your life, but I kind of had my heart set on a partner who always found ways to be sure that I am happy. There are […]
I’m talking about the butterflies in your tummy. Those ones that made you so eager to walk down the aisle. The happiness you felt every time you saw or spoke with him. The warm feelings that the thoughts of spending the rest of your lives together brought to you. I’ve said before that the day […]
Once my friend asked me why it is that a lot of couples don’t seem to have the same attraction towards each other like they did before they got married. To her, it felt as if the moment two people get married, they slowly start to lose that feeling of intimacy that a couple is […]
Yesterday evening, the water pump stopped working. I was in the middle of a laundry cycle and was just about to do dishes from a late lunch. There was no water in the house. It quickly became one of those times where nothing was going as planned, the house was a mess, and as the […]
How does it make you feel when someone offends you and doesn’t apologize? Especially if it’s your spouse? I know that sometimes, apologies may not necessarily mean that the person is sorry for hurting you, and it doesn’t mean they won’t repeat what they have done. But apologies still remain one of the best ways […]
People say that the parents are the first teachers of a child. This is not only true of education or social skills, but also of relationships and human interaction. A large percentage of the time, we are moulded as adults by what we have seen from our parents. That may be a good or bad […]
Growing up, my friend used to have a mental list of what she wanted in a husband. You know the typical tall, dark, and handsome God-fearing guy who has a good job and is the all-round perfect person. This type of expectation isn’t unique to her. I know a lot of us have a standard […]
Have you ever found yourself remembering something your spouse did in the past, and all of a sudden you got angry all over again? Of all the things that destroys a marriage, resentment takes a high seat. It is that negative feeling that slowly degenerates into less love, affection and vulnerability with your spouse. The […]
