Marriage… it’s happening every minute and even as you are reading this article, another one is happening and as for you, here reading, it’s either you’re planning one or you’re already in one. While the pressure of getting married is bearable and not often much for men, being a woman of matured age, the pressure […]
People say that your thoughts affect your actions, and this is even truer when it comes to marriage. Quite often, what you think of your marriage is what it is, and for someone whose negative thoughts about marriage has caused more harm than good, I can say that one of the best ways to have […]
The wail, and heart retching noise from their tiny bodies can break a mothers heart and leave her agitated and distraught. Yet for these mini’s a cry is just a distress call and their most important signaling system during the first 12 months of their lives. Babies cry for a number of reasons but the […]
Read I “thought I knew him” #2: http://blog.ummfariha.org/the-daughter/ile-oko-ya-the-journey-of-a-wife-to-be-i-thought-i-knew-him-2/#more-1679 “Yes, it is what you are thinking, I am not proud of it but it happened, we did ‘meet’ a couple of times before we got married which was one of the reasons I had to marry him anyways. where do I start from and who do […]
I was listening to a scholar last week who talked about the disconnect that often happens between spouses when it comes to spirituality. Maybe the wife is consistently doing acts of Ibadah, and the husband is not, or vice versa. This is quite common, and it should not be. Spiritual compatibility is so important in […]
Exactly one week ago I learnt of the death of a super star entrepreneur, at the peak of his life who passed away suddenly. The one interaction I’d had with him was when I was just about to launch The Essence Online. I had seen the amazing work his company was doing and wanted them […]
Read I “thought I knew him” #1 http://blog.ummfariha.org/the-daughter/ile-oko-ya-the-journey-of-a-wife-to-be-i-thought-i-knew-him/ “Hmmm… by the time you hear all that I have to say you will have a thousand questions to ask. He got back 4:30 am, kissed and cuddled me and slept off. At Fajr, he woke up before me, showered, dressed up and left for the masjid. I […]
Many Muslim couples get married because they want to fulfil half of their deen, as the holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) has been narrated to say that marriage is half of the deen. But sometimes, the relationship between our deen and our marriage ends at that intention- that we want to fulfil half of our deen. […]
Mum goes to work: “Don’t know why she bothered having kids, she barely sees them!” Mum stays at home: “What a waste of a career/potential/talent, she needs to get her own life too/stop relying on benefits/partner!” Mum leaves child with family member: “That poor family member! And that child needs more activities/to interact with kids […]
It was time for dinner at the sister’s conference in Zamfara, I was tired and didn’t feel like eating due to the tiring activities of the day. A sister walked up to me and asked how I was doing as she had earlier brought me paracetamol when I complained of a headache. I told her […]
