I’m talking about the butterflies in your tummy. Those ones that made you so eager to walk down the aisle. The happiness you felt every time you saw or spoke with him. The warm feelings that the thoughts of spending the rest of your lives together brought to you. I’ve said before that the day […]

Once my friend asked me why it is that a lot of couples don’t seem to have the same attraction towards each other like they did before they got married. To her, it felt as if the moment two people get married, they slowly start to lose that feeling of intimacy that a couple is […]

Yesterday evening, the water pump stopped working. I was in the middle of a laundry cycle and was just about to do dishes from a late lunch. There was no water in the house. It quickly became one of those times where nothing was going as planned, the house was a mess, and as the […]

How does it make you feel when someone offends you and doesn’t apologize? Especially if it’s your spouse? I know that sometimes, apologies may not necessarily mean that the person is sorry for hurting you, and it doesn’t mean they won’t repeat what they have done. But apologies still remain one of the best ways […]

People say that the parents are the first teachers of a child. This is not only true of education or social skills, but also of relationships and human interaction. A large percentage of the time, we are moulded as adults by what we have seen from our parents. That may be a good or bad […]

Growing up, my friend used to have a mental list of what she wanted in a husband. You know the typical tall, dark, and handsome God-fearing guy who has a good job and is the all-round perfect person. This type of expectation isn’t unique to her. I know a lot of us have a standard […]

Have you ever found yourself remembering something your spouse did in the past, and all of a sudden you got angry all over again? Of all the things that destroys a marriage, resentment takes a high seat. It is that negative feeling that slowly degenerates into less love, affection and vulnerability with your spouse. The […]

Aisha and Asmau have been friends since childhood. They went to the same schools, lived in the same neighbourhood, and both had dreams of getting good jobs and settling down in a nice neighbourhood in the heart of the city. They got their dreams, and lived happily ever after. Well…almost. Few months after Aisha’s wedding, […]

Patience was one of the things my father-in-law talked to me about the most. In his words, as long as a couple can be as patient as humanly possible with each other, they will find it easier to navigate marriage. You as a person are always patient with yourself. You do something wrong and you […]