This is a question that I ask myself often, and one that I believe Muslim parents should ask themselves often too, because we are the models for our children. What do these kids see when they look at daddy and mummy? What does our interaction with one another tell them about marriage? Children are some […]

The love story between Aisha (ra) and the holy Prophet (sa) is one that Muslims always find captivating and heart-warming. But looking at his marriage to Khadijah (ra), I find that there are a lot of gems for us as wives, especially in the way they lived their lives and treated one another. Companion and […]

“The one who is married should be ready to forgive their spouse several times a day.” This is the one of the most important lesson that I’ve learnt since getting married. I never knew that it is possible for someone to hurt or annoy you so many times, and you still find it in your […]

Imagine the scenario where you meet your husband in the evening after a long day of work, and they reply your greeting with a grunt? Or a less that jovial attitude? And you are pretty sure there wasn’t any sort of argument before you both left for work. Any time this happens to me and […]

“I want to relocate to a different country, but she doesn’t want to let go of her life here” A scenario far too common. When a couple dream differently, it has a lot of impact on their relationship. Even though you both are two different individuals with different dreams and ambitions, few things affect a […]

Photo credit: Azlan Dupree(Flickr) Yes, it is. Regardless of what our cultural backgrounds have taught us, or what the society considers appropriate, verbally and physically expressing your love for your spouse is Sunnah in Islam. The holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) showed love to his wives physically, and his sahabahs did the same. So why do […]

When you ask a lot of Muslim ladies about the qualities that they want in man, his faith is almost always one of the first three things that they mention. The same thing for the men. You want a spouse who is good looking, educated and hardworking, but above all else, who believes in Allah […]

I promise you this is not the post where I talk about feminism and equal rights. For centuries, the marriage dynamic has been tilted in the favour of men. Religion and society says that the husband is the head of the family, to be respected and revered. This, I agree with. But my questions are; […]

I used to be guilty of this in the early years of our marriage. Whenever my husband did anything annoying, like leaving a mess for me to clean up, I would remind him how Prophet Muhammad (sw) was said to mend his own shoes and did his chores. My husband would in turn remind me […]

A lot of us women don’t see ourselves as nags. Yes, you complain a couple of times when things you don’t like happen, but you wouldn’t define yourself as someone who nags. But what I’ve seen is that on a daily basis, there is the tendency to nag your husband about several issues, without realizing […]