I was listening to a lecture by Mufti Ismail Menk, and he mentioned something profound that became the basis for this post – that “taqwa is the cornerstone of a Muslim marriage”. Taqwa (technically taqwa-Allah) is known as the fear of Allah, but some scholars of Islam also describe it as the love of Allah […]
When a man beats up a woman, he is tagged an abusive man and the society either helps the woman leave the marriage, or appeal to the man to behave better. But what happens when your spouse is emotionally abusive? What happens when he treats you less than human and reduces your worth to nothing? […]
I didn’t want to write anything today. Because after spending the last few weeks on the not-so-bright side of marriage, I felt that I didn’t have the words to talk to other people about working on their own marriages. I’ve had some of those days where you question your reasons for getting married, and for […]
This is the last post in a four-part series focused on a woman’s health in marriage. Please see previous posts here, here, and here. This is a topic that feels very personal to me because I know first hand about financial dependence in marriage. Do you know what it feels like to be totally dependent on […]
This is the third in a series of four posts aimed at focussing on the wife in a marriage. You can read others here and here. Did you ever think that there is a relationship between your physical health and your marriage? An expert on family studies seems to think so. Studies have shown that […]
October was the mental health awareness month, and if anything, it shed a light on the plight of mentally challenged people all around the world. Apart from mental illnesses that are genetic, one thing I have seen that people overlook is the mental illnesses that develop from marriages. Cases of abuse, neglect, bad treatment, and […]
This is the first of a four-part series focusing on yourself as a Muslim wife. “And I did not create the jinn and mankind except to worship me.” (Qur’an 51:56) A lot of marriage talks, mine inclusive, is centered on improving our relationship with our spouses and building a loving home for our family. What […]
This question is one that a lot of people will eagerly answer with ‘no’. Because to treat your spouse like a stranger means to be detached from them, to not be bothered about what is going on in their life, and to generally be distant the way one would be with a stranger. But treating […]
On one of those nights when my husband and I tried to work our way through our differences, we talked about our expectations of each other. During this conversation, I realized that the major source of our quarrels was that he wanted me to fulfil his rights before fulfilling some of his responsibilities. This scenario […]
If you’ve spoken with quite a number of married women about marriage, they may tell you the difficulty that they have in getting their husband to communicate with them. He finds it difficult to open up to them, he makes some decisions consulting her, or he can just generally be difficult to talk to. These […]
