I got married at 23. I had finished school, had a good job, and it felt like marriage was the next thing to tick off on my list of to-dos. For me, I was getting married because it was the next thing to do, and it is also half of my faith. I don’t think […]
As I sat down to write this week’s column, I tried to think of those things that I wished that people told me before I got married, or early on in my marriage. And I came up with the issue of seeking advice as a married person. We are usually told that what happens between […]
The other day, someone on Twitter said that relationships are sweet when both parties have their own money, jobs, etc. independent of each other. I look at this statement in terms of marriage, and how spouses can bring out the best in each other when they are both on the same wavelength. What do I […]
Yesterday, I read a quote from someone who said that if you put anything before God in your life, He removes that thing. This saying is similar to what I have come to believe about marriage. It is easy to say that we are getting married to fulfil half of our deen, but how often […]
People say that your thoughts affect your actions, and this is even truer when it comes to marriage. Quite often, what you think of your marriage is what it is, and for someone whose negative thoughts about marriage has caused more harm than good, I can say that one of the best ways to have […]
I was listening to a scholar last week who talked about the disconnect that often happens between spouses when it comes to spirituality. Maybe the wife is consistently doing acts of Ibadah, and the husband is not, or vice versa. This is quite common, and it should not be. Spiritual compatibility is so important in […]
Many Muslim couples get married because they want to fulfil half of their deen, as the holy Prophet Muhammad (saw) has been narrated to say that marriage is half of the deen. But sometimes, the relationship between our deen and our marriage ends at that intention- that we want to fulfil half of our deen. […]
I was on a social media website some days ago when an unmarried lady commented that she was eager to get married so that she could have a man to hug and snuggle up with every time. She also said that she envied married women because they had that kind of enjoyment at their fingertips. I smiled. […]
Every married person knows the importance of communicating with their spouse. We may ignore it sometimes, but we understand that it is one of the things that connects us as couples. But a lot of couples say that they find it difficult to communicate with their spouse. Either you try to communicate your needs or […]
Sometimes, we tend to experience a Dull in marriage, especially if you have been married for quite some time. It is easy to settle into the rhythm of life, work, and possibly parenting, such that the initial couple-ness that you both had, begin to fade away. Each of you is so tied up in responsibilities that […]
